Bitch Fest Holiday Edition: Mother-in-Law Hijacks Xmas

Dear Bitch Fest,My mother-in-law announced she's hosting Christmas dinner and invited my entire extended family WITHOUT ASKING ME. She knows I've been planning our first Christmas as homeowners for months. When I mentioned this, she said, "Oh honey, you're so busy with work, I thought I'd help." Now my husband is acting like I'm the problem for being upset. I want to scream., Hostess with the Mostess StressDear Hostess with the Mostess Stress,Okay, here's where you and I are different: If my mother-in-law wanted to invite me for dinner, cook amazing food, and handle all the cleanup while I sit there in stretchy pants? YES PLEASE! Sign me up for that holiday miracle.But honestly? Just talk to her. Be real about this. I'm sure she's not the Wicked Witch of the North, you saw Wicked, even she had a heart. Maybe she genuinely thought she was helping, or maybe she's one of those people who needs to control everything and didn't think about how it would land.And it sounds like you're newly married, so let me ask you this: Do you really want to start this marriage off fighting at Christmas? Girl, there's Christmas, Boxing Day, New Year's... pick another...